Erotica and its interactive derivatives are not a mens' club, man. There are a lot of women making and consuming it, and NC fantasies are just very popular across the board. I don't know of any survey, but I wouldn't be surprised if they were more popular than BDSM itself.
In my experience games like the OP's tend to rationalise the NC content and express a certain background resentment towards women (usually via cheating and revenge narratives) that reasonably grates them (and seems a bit cringe to me), but NC content made by women tends to be way more unhinged. When I was running around in some improptu ERP circles back when IRC was a thing, dom guys were like "and then I fuck you hard with my huge, unmanageable dick that I strain to lift with my also huge muscles", and women would push towards compounding suffering narratives starting from abject betrayal by loved ones, and ending with getting callously tortured by slavers. The mind of the femme sub is a much more frightening place.
