Our Hotwives

Hello all!

I'm a 47 year-old husband to the most amazing, beautiful, sexy woman in the world - Sara. We've been married 15 years now and have been together for almost twice that. We have everything you would think we could want - great family, income, etc. But the story is an old one - we had gotten lost in our intimate relationship, with a vicious circle of my passive aggressive reaction to the lack of intimacy and (as I found out later) her resentment of my attraction to her while she was losing hers to me. I have always been a big guy but I definitely had let myself go. We were still in love with each other but the spark was dead.

I have been doing much better since Covid to become healthier and take better care of myself. She definitely noticed but we were still only a once every month or three kind of rhythm. Recently two main revelations changed everything, at about the same time.

We were having our Nth discussion about our intimacy issues early this year and she told me about the resentment, after for so long blaming hormones, or potentially perimenopause, or just a lack of interest in sex altogether. I had never realized how hard this was on her, at least to what extent. I decided I needed to make a change - to stop being so passive aggressive and pouty and become a proper partner in our marriage. The other was that I knew going into our relationship she wasn't big on monogamy or even marriage - it was our love that led to our getting married and starting a family, but there was this effect of sidelining an important part of who she is as a woman. I had offered her the chance to explore with another woman but as we were having these frank, honest discussions she asked, "Well, what if I want to explore with a man?" At this point I immediately said that if that was what she needed I would support her.

This was, to put it mildly, shocking to her, but in a great way. While the idea started as a fantastical one divorced from reality, we became closer and closer together. Our sex life, especially as I was meaningfully trying to be a better husband to Sara, went from dead to regular, and then a few months later from regular to almost DAILY. We felt rejuvenated and were connecting on all levels, and I felt so happy, as Sara did as well. We often joked about her desire about a man different from me, which definitely spiced things up in the bedroom. I honestly want her to experience everything she desires, I love it when she cums for me and sometimes I think I enjoy that even more than when I cum, so this seems like a logical extension of that. We've been through the crucible and I feel like we have such a solid, open, transparent, new relationship that I completely trust her no matter what she wants to do - of course staying safe and private.

It also helped that I started running in May and added weight training in September. By now I've shed about 50 pounds.

Come November and Sara confided in me that it was when I told her I would be ok with allowing her to pursue outside sexual relationships (on her terms, with or without me) that she realized how much unconditional love I had for her, which in turn made her love me even more. It was like flipping a switch again and we became even closer and the sex became even better - almost overwhelming! The fantasy started taking shape - she has an attraction for guys who were basically the opposite of me - I'm a big guy, a bit soft (but getting better with the weight training, which she LOVES); but she always had a soft spot for guys who worked out and in great shape.

It became a yin and yang thing - she started fantasizing about having both me and another man, different in many ways. Another thing is I'm the smallest guy she's ever had (she's had about 10 sexual relationships total, me being the last), even though I'm a very average 5.5" (though I'm apparently the thickest as well). She finally admitted she did miss the feel of a bigger dick and that it would be nice to scratch that itch.

All through this I'm sharing resources to her, we're talking about hotwifing and what that could look like for us. As much as I get it for those who enjoy it, we're not interested at all in a cuck dynamic - she has taken to calling me her stag as much as I call her my hotwife. It's important for us that any bull or outsider understand and respects both of us and never puts either of us down.

The last few days have been a complete whirlwind. We had an extra phone after an upgrade and I mentioned I could get a line for her to explore with. She happily agreed and two days ago we set up her new phone line. Last night she plunged in and set up a profile on Feeld on the separate phone (to maintain privacy from our kids and family), but she surprised me in that she wanted to add some pics. We found four great (IMO, she's constantly self-deprecating) pics, three from our weekend trip to Vegas last month (I told you - we're like kids in love again!) where she looked freaking amazing (and wore the anklet I got her, btw!). We covered up the top half of her face but you can see her smile in each picture.

Her profile was simple but basically said she was a wife to me, that I had taken to calling her a hotwife and she was definitely new to this but wanted to explore. She set up a bunch of likes (including FF and MFF which surprised me!) and went live around midnight. The likes started coming in. Then the pings. Then pings with messages. It was like a flood. Some guys were not interesting but there were guys who were RIPPED, who were giving her compliments about her amazing smile. She has a great body too - talking 32FF, medium waist, curves in ALL the RIGHT places. She hit it off with two pings in particular - one who was ready to meet her basically right away, a younger guy with a what looks like an eight-pack becuase six-pack didn't do it justice (EDIT A WEEK LATER: THIS IS J!) and another guy more our age who had a great vibe and looked interesting to her (This is Y). To both she explained she was brand new to this and taking it slow, and both guys were gentlemen. The first suggested exchanging pics and she told me that maybe she could take a pic in a bra and panties to send him soon which was a great surprise to me. The second was far more suave, welcomed her to the lifestyle and offered to help guide her through her first steps. She seems more interested in him and I feel more at ease with him too, just looking over her shoulder at this point. I should also mention so far she wants me there, at least at first.

It's now 21 hours later. The woman who always feels she's not beautiful, that she's not sexy or desirable, that maybe I feel that way but no other guys would (and even through our history I've always told her how beautiful and sexy she is, but she's had a lot of Catholic upbringing to get over!) - Sara, my amazing, gorgeous hotwife, has 400 likes!! She is flabbergasted, and I am too a bit, but for a different reason - we have never used apps as our relationship predates almost all of them and I had no idea how many people were on them. It's all very exciting but also very surreal how quickly this is moving.

There's more detail but this is getting long. I have told her about this place and told her I would post to introduce her story, then she'll register later (tonight or tomorrow maybe) so she can get verified and ask the great women here about their experiences, what to look out for, etc...

So Sara and I are not a hotwife and stag YET, but it feels inevitable at this point. As I continue to tell her just because I want her to make this decision as independently as possible - the door is open but it is her choice to go through it, and even if she does it is her choice whether to go through once or make it a part of our life. I'll also say I am so happy we are at this point, because even if she backs out now or later, she finally has proof I wasn't just being a nice guy when I tell her how amazingly sexy and beautiful she is.

Welcome to the forum Sasras_stag. Let me know if she registers and I will look for her to approve her account.

Thanks Army Guy for the welcome.

Last night was another amazing experience.

As things have been progressing I decided she needed new lingerie so I’ve been buying her quite a few fun things, one of which was a super cute blue translucent bralette and panties set. Well, it came yesterday so after her evening bath (during which she went through her new likes and pings, and told me she masturbated to one guy’s Feeld profile pics) she tried them on and took a hot selfie in the mirror with her phone covering most of her face other than her amazing sexy smile.

When we got to bed she brought up the app and was feeling bolder, so she returned a new like and got to chatting with another guy, who had a great set of profile pics. She told him she liked his pics and he asked for hers, so she sent the selfie, which he seemed to love. He then sent a dick pic and it looked so big it was stunning, and she told him so. He then asked for an ass pic so I took one for her to send. He then stopped responding.

This wasn’t great for her self confidence at a critical time, but I reassured her he might just be a flake. She was bummed though. I suggested she reach out to the suave match from the previous night and she did. He quickly responded and as he had offered to guide her she asked for his advice about her sexting prowess and pics. He was glad to.

She sent him the lingerie selfie and ass pic, and he said they were great (you have an amazing ass, he said). He then said he was holding back, because he was respecting her asking for advice and wasn’t the original recipient of the pics. Huge green flag, respecting boundaries like this! She invited him to go ahead and give his opinion.

He told her as much as he liked the ass pic, he was a boobs man and her first pic was incredible, that he wanted to kiss her breast. This got Sara going! They started sexting and it was so hot, I started fingering het while kissing her breast. She told him what I was doing and he said he would love to join in, assuming I was ok with it. Second huge green flag!

She even took a pic of what I was doing to her and he loved that too. She came so much, while keeping him informed - a dozen, a few dozen, it was waves and waves of cum. Then she started giving me a blowjob and it felt like I was so electrically charged - like the first time I ever had a blowjob from her, over two decades ago. I took a pic of her doing so and then wondered aloud whether he was bigger.

She decided to ask and he said “that’s for me to know and for you to find out”, which she loved. She then decided to send him the pic of her blowing me and said “I hope I don’t choke” which was so hot - she was rapidly becoming comfortable with the idea of this guy as her first hot wife experience.

At one point he said “careful, that sounds like an invitation” when she said how she wished he was kissing her other breast and could take over for me when my hand got tired (after what felt like over 30 minutes of fingering I could use a break!) and we realized though it was impossible last night with the kids home he might have come had we invited him which was so hot. Did I mention he’s only around 5 km away?!

She decided to tell him that he was right, with the kids home it was impossible, plus she was tired and had to head to bed (it was almost 3AM at this point!) but she looked forward to continuing tomorrow via text and in person “soonish” (!!!!)

She absolutely wants me there, but last night said “the first time” instead of as a blanket statement (this was while we were hot and heavy while she was chatting) - I have an upcoming work trip in February and I asked her if she might play solo with this guy as well, and she said maybe - so I told her I hoped she would while I was away that week since she deserved not to be deprived of sex for so long. One of her biggest orgasms quickly followed that idea!

This is so surreal, people. My glorious wife is almost a real life hot wife.

Hi, I’m Sara. I’m new to all this. I just wanted to introduce myself.

Welcome to the forum Sara_MTL .

Sara_MTL wrote: ↑

Sun Dec 29, 2024 10:20 am

Hi, I’m Sara. I’m new to all this. I just wanted to introduce myself.

Hello my love!

I can’t believe how lucky I am to be yours.

Hi to you both SS & SM, this is electric, and I'm glad I've jumped aboard so early in your journey, I can't wait to see what happens next, and yes, this is progressing very, very fast, you must be super excited and so glad you are both enjoying this together and already it has 'turbo-charged' your connection and physical attraction to each other.

Hoping that Sara becomes a hotwife soon, or at least dips her toe in the water!

Thank you both for sharing your adventure!!!

playwifeplease wrote: ↑

Mon Dec 30, 2024 2:53 am

Hi to you both SS & SM, this is electric, and I'm glad I've jumped aboard so early in your journey, I can't wait to see what happens next, and yes, this is progressing very, very fast, you must be super excited and so glad you are both enjoying this together and already it has 'turbo-charged' your connection and physical attraction to each other.

Hoping that Sara becomes a hotwife soon, or at least dips her toe in the water!

Thanks PWP! It has been a crazy few days!

Last night she was in a sexy mood and had a nice bath taking an amazing pic but her connections weren’t on yet… but later she connected with a really attractive woman (A) half of a couple who loved her pics. A’s pics just exude sexuality. This woman was also bicurious but since her first woman a year ago has fully embraced bisexuality and loves women, so she might be a perfect choice for Sara’s first foray on that side. My bold Sara sent her that amazing lingerie pic and A reacted with a fire and wet emoji and then asked if I was ok if Sara played with her and her partner alone.

I’ve already told Sara I’m definitely ok with her playing solo as long as I get to hear all about it afterward. Sara told her she’s still new and while I’m ok with it she’s a bit nervous, because in reality she’d like to be alone with A and is hoping for A to suggest that as a first step (though the guy is definitely intriguing her as well, given it would be her first ever anything with a woman!). She’s too shy (at this point) to suggest it herself.


At the same time she also chatted and shared a couple of hot pics in lingerie with the young stud from earlier (J) who has the aforementioned eight pack. When he saw her he said he’d love to suck on her breasts, so he’s a possibility too. Sara is definitely considering him too, he also happens to look enormous given one of his pics in his boxers.

She is disappointed though that the guy she was really vibing with who offered to help her through her first steps has gone dark. He hasn’t disconnected so he might have been busy but she was feeling a connection and thought he might be the one to be the first man other than me she’s had - she’s doing a lot of identifying who might be her first hot wife experience, who might be her first woman, her first BBC, etc.

Surreal! And so exciting. Even with the downs the ups have been crazy. She thought sexy A had made a mistake connecting with her (pressed the wrong button kind of mistake) and realizing that A found Sara so desirable was so amazing for Sara - hopefully she’s realizing finally what I’ve been telling her since I met her, that she’s the most beautifying and sexy woman I’ve ever met.

rvplace wrote: ↑

Mon Dec 30, 2024 4:11 am

Thank you both for sharing your adventure!!!

Thanks RV! I’ve been lurking here for a few months as the fantasy started taking shape and it’s been hugely helpful to Sara and I as we take our first steps.

Sara_MTL wrote: ↑

Sun Dec 29, 2024 10:20 am

Hi, I’m Sara. I’m new to all this. I just wanted to introduce myself.

Welcome Sara!

Strap in and enjoy the ride!!!

Angela Plays wrote: ↑

Mon Dec 30, 2024 5:47 am

Welcome Sara!

Strap in and enjoy the ride!!!

Thanks for welcoming my wife Angela! I enjoyed reading about your journey, Sara definitely check it out!!

armyguyot1 wrote: ↑

Sun Dec 29, 2024 8:02 pm

Welcome to the forum Sara_MTL .

Thank you

Angela Plays wrote: ↑

Mon Dec 30, 2024 5:47 am

Sara_MTL wrote: ↑

Sun Dec 29, 2024 10:20 am

Hi, I’m Sara. I’m new to all this. I just wanted to introduce myself.

Welcome Sara!

Strap in and enjoy the ride!!!

Thank you so much. This is exciting and new. A little scary too. Btw, you are a beautiful woman. Loved the pics and your journey.

Welcome Sara and Stag. Sounds like things are off to a great start. My husband and I are from the Toronto area, but we love Montreal and were just there with the kids this past summer. Next time we visit, I'll be looking at all the hot 47ish year old couples and will wonder if they are you

Lookingforadventure wrote: ↑

Mon Dec 30, 2024 11:25 am

Welcome Sara and Stag. Sounds like things are off to a great start. My husband and I are from the Toronto area, but we love Montreal and were just there with the kids this past summer. Next time we visit, I'll be looking at all the hot 47ish year old couples and will wonder if they are you

Thanks so much!! Maybe you and Sara can connect...

Chatting is going very well tonight. Two new contenders emerged, M is another Adonis who is experienced with hotwives and after a very direct (bus respectful!) back and forth, and seeing Sara’s lingerie pics (a new one today and our previous favourite) offered to host us (!!!!)

Also there’s G, a Ricky Martin look-alike according to Sara which would be basically her younger self’s dream. He’s also very respectful and when he found out Sara hasn’t done the actual deed yet, he was excited that he could be her first.

Sara just asked me if I’m really ok with her going through having actual sex with another person. I told her that she sacrificed a part of herself when we built our family, her sexual self, and when I finally realized that I never wanted her to pretend to be anyone other than her true self. She deserved both me and having the freedom to explore her sexual interests. That our partnership is on our terms and no one else’s, and we can negotiate and modify that with our say so alone. I love that she’s more like her old self than I can remember in years and that she’s HAPPY.

Plus, Sara’s sexual appetite, now that she’s allowing herself the freedom to be herself, is reawakened and is pretty damned incredible. I don’t know how I could handle it alone for too much longer!!

And now J comes back into the lead. Great sexy chat leading to an exchange of pics and confirmation he’s huge. Ok with me being there, no contact with him but I’m not into that anyway so no issues. Starting to talk details. Sara is excited that he might be her biggest ever and the idea of a 28 year physical specimen in his prime while she’s in her sexual prime is intoxicating her.

I’m so happy for her.

Best of Luck in your Hot Journey!

setv4 wrote: ↑

Mon Dec 30, 2024 10:59 pm

Best of Luck in your Hot Journey!

Thank you! This is all still so surreal and exciting for both of us. We had amazing sex last night after she put the phone away.

playwifeplease wrote: ↑

Mon Dec 30, 2024 2:53 am

Hi to you both SS & SM, this is electric, and I'm glad I've jumped aboard so early in your journey, I can't wait to see what happens next, and yes, this is progressing very, very fast, you must be super excited and so glad you are both enjoying this together and already it has 'turbo-charged' your connection and physical attraction to each other.

Hoping that Sara becomes a hotwife soon, or at least dips her toe in the water!

Thank you for the welcome. My toes are very close to the water

rvplace wrote: ↑

Mon Dec 30, 2024 4:11 am

Thank you both for sharing your adventure!!!

The adventure has just began. Keep you posted.

Lookingforadventure wrote: ↑

Mon Dec 30, 2024 11:25 am

Welcome Sara and Stag. Sounds like things are off to a great start. My husband and I are from the Toronto area, but we love Montreal and were just there with the kids this past summer. Next time we visit, I'll be looking at all the hot 47ish year old couples and will wonder if they are you

Thank you so much for the welcome. It’s nice to meet a fellow hotwife so close to home. Loved you cute Christmas outfit. You are inspiring me

setv4 wrote: ↑

Mon Dec 30, 2024 10:59 pm

Best of Luck in your Hot Journey!

Thank you. The journey is just starting. Scary, but super exciting as well.